Rule #3

Rule #3 You Have to Be Cruel To be Kind. 

As you all know, I've been assistant coaching JV cheerleading since July. I absolutely love it. Cheerleading is my passion. Seriously. Although I only cheered for 4 years (2 years middle school, 2 years varsity) I became quite good. AMAZINGGGGGG motions, pretty jumps, and I was a kick ass back. Im proud to say, after 4 long years of not cheering...I STILL GOT IT. Heres where this happy nostalgic story ends.

I love my JV girls. But they are EXTREMELY lazy. So lazy it annoys me. Like...we had Hell Week a few weeks ago (basically extreme boot camp) and they finished the week out amazing. Jumps were so much better, motions were....alright, they had begun doing elite stunts, they had perfect pushups (they do them every time the football team scores), and were making progress with their tumbling . I was so proud of them. 3 weeks later and they look like the bottom of my shoe. All of the hard work they (and the coaches) put in isn't apparent anymore.

What pisses me off is that they have the potential to be phenomenal. They are one of the most advanced JV teams I've ever seen. Id be perfectly fine with them looking like shit if I wasn't aware of their potential....but I am, so Im not. Im the nice coach. I try to give constructive criticism in a nice way because I know how sensitive teen girls can be. But those days are over.

I've learned that with this particular group of girls you HAVE to be a drill sergeant. I have to be cruel to be kind.

I want them to go to competition and place. Hell...I want them to go to competition and WIN. If being the mean coach is what will motivate them to get there then Im more than willing to sacrifice their 'like' towards me. I want them to take this seriously. They want to be seen as athletes, they have to work to prove they're worthy of the title.

Rule #2

Rule #2 Pull your head out of your ass and stand out.


So many times I lose sight of the big picture because I am too bashful to reach out and grab the star I've been dreaming of. Im way too caught up in my own shyness to put myself out there. Why is it that I'm so self conscious when it comes to being in the spot light? Its weird really...I grew up on stage. There's no reason I should be this shy!

Like seriously..who the hell am I to think that everyone would be so worried about what I'm doing that I cant be myself?! NO ONE! I need to remember that while I sit here all antsy and nervous, no one is paying attention to me. Confidence is key and even if I am nervous, it doesnt have to show. Im a big girl now. I need to suck it up and grab my dreams by the horns! I need to shine as I was intended to before someone else steps in and takes hold of the dream that I built. The one that was meant for me and me alone.

I am beautiful, intelligent, goal driven, and hard working. I Jazmyn, am hereby pulling my head out of my ass so that I may reach my full potential =]

Rule #1

So today a new show called Awkward premiered on MTV. I freakin love it! It reminded me of Juno a little. But anyway, the show is about a teenage girl who has a huge accident that everyone mistakes as a suicide. Prior to her accident someone sent her an anonymous letter basically explaining why she sucks at life and a list of things she can do to fix her suckiness. I decided that Im going to blog along with her list each week, so here goes!

Rule #1 Stop being such a pussy.

This is by far the hardest lesson that Ive had to learn in life. Im always putting the feelings of others before my own and a lot of the time it ends up horribly for me. My mother always told me that I was going to grow up and let people walk all over me if I didnt develop some sort of backbone. As a teenager I took this advice as her just being a bitch [dont judge me, you know teen girls ALWAYS have mommy issues lol]. But now as a young adult I realize that she is absolutely 100% right about this. This realization was actually the inspiration for my blog back in 2009!

After a lifetime of being a sweet, loving, girl, I found myself thrown into an environment (college) where not everyone had my best interests at heart. I was devastated upon finding out that in the real world: nice girls do finish last.

This is a constant struggle for me. I dont like being a bitch. I dont like hurting people's feelings. I dont like always putting myself first. But it is absolutely necessary at this point in my life. If Jazmyn doesnt look out for Jazmyn, who else will? I know that I will always have my back...I could never disappoint myself.

Not being a pussy has been good for me. Im more confident. I cry a lot less. I smile a lot more. Im done feeling degraded by people who try to put me down. I will not tolerate it anymore.

Im happy.

Sticky Fingers.

have you ever had a friend thats just extra touchy feely?? you try not to hurt his feelings (because thats your friend) but it gets to the point that you are physically uncomfortable..

i have.

its so awkward. grabbing my waist (and ass), kissing my shoulders, cuffin in the club -__-

how do you tell someone to leave you alone without ruining a friendship? ive tried jokingly saying, "oh boy u better stop!" and when that didnt work i tried the serious approach, "im serious...get OFF of me!!"

i know hes drunk..but come on man.

its not scary to the point that i think he would cause me any physical harm. i know hes not that kind of guy. but i dont think that i should have to feel uncomfortable while im out with friends trying to have a good time.

this has happened to me on more than one occasion with more than one guy friend. NO im not giving off any signals, because im not attracted to these guys in any way,shape, or form. im nice...and friendly...but do i really look that damn approachable?!

suggestions?